It is 20 years ago today that I lost my lovely dad.
Here he is below with my nephew Ashley.
As much as any loss can be difficult to deal with, I think about my dad often. I decided today rather than feel sad for not having him around and grieve for what I lost at such a young age, I was going to instead, celebrate the life of a great man. I decided to reflect on his amazing qualities and remind myself of the things he used to say and do that have helped me grow into the person I am today.
I chatted with one of my sisters about what we loved about him and what we admired the most. The things we said sprang to our minds the moment we thought of him were…
- His love for his family and always being there when we needed him.
- He would always be there to help friends and family at the drop of a hat.
- He was someone you could rely on particularly in times of need.
- He was very practical and loved to make things especially if it was for his family.
(I remember sitting for hours watching him build a beautiful puppet theatre for my sister who had made a puppet at school. His craftsmanship was to be admired)
- He would always create work of the highest quality.
My mum and dad set up a business when I was 3 years old. They had a goal and despite having 4 children decided to pursue it to provide a better future for their family. They achieved their goal within 3 years and despite whatever me and my sisters have taken from that experience, I can only admire their vision and determination to realise a better future for their family.
They worked as a team, demonstrated real drive and determination and a work ethic that has been instilled in me and I continually demonstrate in my life. I admire my parents passion to take a risk and be fantastic role models to us.
Even though today is a sad day, celebrating my dads life and all that I learnt from him to shape the way I am today has helped me to enjoy a lovely day in the sunshine. I am thankful that even if I only shared a small amount of my life with my dad, what I learnt in those few years were very special and, I will always cherish those memories.
Whilst we all have sad moments in our lives, we can always find joy and appreciate what we admire in each other. Take time to seize life, celebrate and thank those around you. I believe my dad knew what I thought of him but wow, what I would give for a few minutes to tell him again.
Who do you appreciate?
What is it that you appreciate about them?
Go and tell them now.